Caesarea was an international centre populated not only by Jews, but also by the important people of Roman society as well -- aristocracy and wealthy merchants.
These Romans built beautiful palaces and lived a fancy and wild lifestyle. They enjoyed theatres, sports, and cruel shows of wild animal fights.
Sadly, there were Jews who fell under the influence of the Romans, attending their theatres and joining in their vulgar entertainments, until some of them even deserted the path of Torah.
רבי אבהו had once lived in Caesarea, and the closer he came to the city, the more he longed to be back in the Academy together with the חכמים . He remembered the unholy atmosphere of Caesarea with disgust, and suddenly he wanted to turn back to Tiveria.
"Perhaps we shouldn't continue on our trip," he said to רבי שמעון . "The city of Caesarea is not the kind of place where we should spend our time. There are so many Jews who have strayed from Torah, it hurts me to see them."
Suddenly, רבי שמעון got off from his donkey, and without a word of explanation, he scooped up a handful of sand and placed it in רבי אבהו 's mouth!
רבי אבהו was shocked. What could רבי שמעון be thinking to do something like this to him? He couldn't speak for some time as it was difficult to clean his mouth from the gritty sand. When he finally could speak, he turned to his friend and asked, "Why did you do that to me?"
רבי שמעון replied, " ה ‘ is pained when anyone bad about the Jewish people. The Jews are His beloved children, and just as parents love their children, even when they don’t listen to them, ה ‘ also loves His children even when they do עבירות , and he doesn't want to hear bad reports about them. If you see that the Jews are doing עבירות , you should rebuke them and help them return to the proper paths."
רבי אבהו accepted this lesson from רבי שמעון . He became one of the greatest defenders of his people, especially in front of the Roman rulers.
Many times he succeeded in persuading the Roman Emperor to take away evil decrees which were so common during that difficult period. Under his good influence, even Caesarea developed into a city where Torah could blossom again.
The great חכמים of the time of the גמרא worked hard to constantly study more and more תורה but they also worked hard on developing their good מידות such as respect and love for one another.
Once, the senior תלמידים of רבי יהודה הנשיא were gathered around him listening to his lecture with great concentration. רבי יהודה suddenly stopped speaking and gazed around the room, focusing his eyes on each of his תלמידים . No one understood what had happened.
"Whoever has eaten garlic, leave the room at once!" he exclaimed. רבי יהודה had disliked the smell of garlic so much that he couldn’t continue teaching.
רבי חייא הגדול , one of the most important of all the great rabbis who were there, rose from his place and left the בית מדרש . The תלמידים looked at one another in wonder, רבי חייא knew that that his teacher disliked the smell of garlic and he would never have shown such disrespect for him.
Fearing that רבי יהודה would suspect his great student, all the other students also got up and left the בית מדרש , except for one.
The one who remained was רבי שמעון , רבי יהודה 's son, who saw how very upset the entire incident made his father.
רבי יהודה couldn't bear to think that the learning had stopped for the whole day because of one student.
רבי שמעון decided to speak to רבי חייא the following day. "It was your fault that my father interrupted the lecture and we missed out on a whole day's learning!"
רבי חייא replied to him with this explanation: "You must know that I would never do anything to upset my teacher and master. I certainly would never do something which I know he hates. However, I was concerned how the guilty person would feel. How embarrassed he would be to leave the בית מדרש . I knew that if I were to leave, all the others would do the same, and the guilty person would then be able to leave without anyone realising. Even though precious תורה learning would be lost, that was better than one of my friends being shamed in front of everyone."
That day רבי שמעון learned an important lesson from רבי חייא -- how important the honor of another Jew should be to us.
(Adapted from the L’chaim weekly)